Check slot->restart_lsn validity in a few more places

Check slot->restart_lsn validity in a few more places

Lack of these checks could cause visible misbehavior, including
assertion failures.  This was missed in commit c6550776394e, whereby
restart_lsn becomes invalid when the size limit is exceeded.

Also reword some existing error messages, and add errdetail(), so that
the reported errors all match in spirit.

Author: Kyotaro Horiguchi <horikyota.ntt@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Álvaro Herrera <alvherre@alvh.no-ip.org>
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/20200408.093710.447591748588426656.horikyota.ntt@gmail.com