Fix up pgstats counting of live and dead tuples to recognize that committed

Fix up pgstats counting of live and dead tuples to recognize that committed
and aborted transactions have different effects; also teach it not to assume
that prepared transactions are always committed.

Along the way, simplify the pgstats API by tying counting directly to
Relations; I cannot detect any redeeming social value in having stats
pointers in HeapScanDesc and IndexScanDesc structures.  And fix a few
corner cases in which counts might be missed because the relation's
pgstat_info pointer hadn't been set.