windows: Only consider us to be running as service if stderr is invalid.

windows: Only consider us to be running as service if stderr is invalid.

Previously pgwin32_is_service() would falsely return true when postgres is
started from somewhere within a service, but not as a service. That is
e.g. always the case with windows docker containers, which some CI services
use to run windows tests in.

When postgres falsely thinks its running as a service, no messages are
writting to stdout / stderr. That can be very confusing and causes a few tests
to fail.

To fix additionally check if stderr is invalid in pgwin32_is_service(). For
that to work in backend processes, pg_ctl is changed to pass down handles so
that postgres can do the same check (otherwise "default" handles are created).

While this problem exists in all branches, there have been no reports by
users, the prospective CI usage currently is only for master, and I am not a
windows expert. So doing the change in only master for now seems the sanest
approach.

Author: Andres Freund <andres@anarazel.de>
Reviewed-By: Magnus Hagander <magnus@hagander.net>
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/20210305185752.3up5eq2eanb7ofmb@alap3.anarazel.de