Refactor AllocSetAlloc(), separating hot and cold paths

Refactor AllocSetAlloc(), separating hot and cold paths

Allocating from a free list or from a block which contains enough space
already, we deem to be common code paths and want to optimize for those.
Having to allocate a new block, either a normal block or a dedicated one
for a large allocation, we deem to be less common, therefore we class
that as "cold".  Both cold paths require a malloc so are going to be
slower as a result of that regardless.

The main motivation here is to remove the calls to malloc() in the hot
path and because of this, the compiler is now free to not bother setting
up the stack frame in AllocSetAlloc(), thus making the hot path much
cheaper.

Author: Andres Freund
Reviewed-by: David Rowley
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/20210719195950.gavgs6ujzmjfaiig@alap3.anarazel.de